Fearless?

Fearless?   

Being left behind or forgotten. Being judged or misunderstood. Hurting your loved ones. Not being able to tell others your opinion.

 Everyone has their own fears. Or. . . do they?

There are two common kinds of people in the world when it comes to confronting their fears. Those who accept it and, those who don’t and keep running away from that. The first thing that might come to your mind is that those who deny it are the worse kind but what if really, neither of them is the best one? What if the word ‘fearless’ wasn’t just a synonym of ‘brave’ or ‘strong’, but a word that held a whole different meaning in itself?

It is clear that denying your fears won’t help you, in any way, in living life- you can’t hide the truth from yourself, can you? The fact that one hasn’t let his fears out all his life becomes a bigger fear in itself, chasing one all the way until he starts becoming afraid of revealing him fears to even himself. That results in possible isolation.

Accepting that you have certain fears that you can’t confront is a better possible option but not always the best. Merely whining on or screaming about your fears isn’t helping you face it anyway, either, is it? The best way a person can tackle his fears is to get in touch with them.

But what does fear mean? It is what may give you the creeps or something that you can’t standing doing or seeing, depending on what the fear is. But something that you overcome over time isn’t a real fear, is it? That can be called as a simple phase of growing up. Younger children have more fears, but overcome and forget them as they go through adolescence. Now, if you look back to fears you had when you were a toddler- they would seem trivial and pointless. But for child, it still is a fear. It depends on how you see life- one’s point of view.

But a fear that transient isn’t real. A real fear is what you want to keep buried inside you, and never want to be encountered with- a fear that lasts despite all the scrapes of experience you have. Realizing the fear first is important. You can’t tackle your opponent unless you know what powers and influence they have.

Some people are incapable of thinking of a real fear because it isn’t something you face every other day like a weekly math test. If that were the case, the fear wouldn’t exist, would it? A fear can be something that you haven’t encountered, yet, or otherwise, something you don’t be in contact with very often. It is a challenge in itself, realizing your fears, but once you have done that, you need to know why is it that this fear is caused.

The reasons can be as complex as trigonometry or as simple as a past anecdote, but the important thing here is that it caused the fear. Someone’s fear, for example, might me confronting others (take me for instance). They might not be able tell others their true opinion and feelings, just because they think way too much about the contemplations of the person in front of them, forgetting that it is way more important that they convey their own point of view first.

The way you can take down a fear is exposing yourselves to them, once in awhile and not running. The two kinds of people I talked about earlier are the same, actually. A person who denies the existence of the fear or the person who is accepting it- in the end, both sorts are running away from the solution of the problem.  After all, when you accept your fears you aren’t doing anything to actually embrace them or curing them, are you?

Being fearless isn’t possible if one continues to stay a victim in the hands of the bully and gather sympathy, but only if they try to befriend the bully. Instead of letting the fears make you make hasty decisions, you should try to influence some sort of control that lets you have a fearless defense every once in awhile.

Fears are something that won’t leave right away or maybe won’t ever, but the least we can do is prepare ourselves for the blow that those fears deliver every time you encounter it. Slowly, your fear might as well vanish, and before you know it you are what one calls ‘fearless’.

It is true that you can develop more fears over time, after you defeat your old fears, but that is a human tendency, isn’t it? One can only try and overthrow those fears again and not give up just because there are way too many of them- that can become a worse fear, right? In the end, the best way to freeze your fears isn’t the simplest one but remember that it isn’t impossible, either.

If people stop thinking of their fears as undefeatable, they might be able to actually make the practice of overcoming fears more prevalent. That way, the word ‘fearless’ would have more common examples. . . until then, He continues to be the only actual fearless being.